Simply reading the right book won’t make me a good dad. There’s a whole lot more to it than that. But avoiding the good advice of others doesn’t exactly help either. I certainly don’t know it all when it comes to parenting — not by a long shot.
I’ve been addicted to healthy things, such as baseball, basketball and golf, which meant I was pretty skinny and fit early in life. Then, I’ve been addicted to some not-so-great things, such as cigarettes. And I’ll never give a smoker a hard time about not being able to quit. It becomes part of your identity. It’s a friend. Like so much in life, it’s hard to explain unless you’ve actually felt that nicotine tug. It’s as powerful as an ocean current. [Full Story »]
There was the evening I stepped outside into a harsh Chicago wind in February. It was precisely that moment when I lost all inhibition about wearing scarves and went back inside to borrow my brother in law’s neck attire. “Real men don’t wear scarves” — that had been my attitude as a native of the South.
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